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What now after Divorce

Divorce and breakups of long-term relationships can really do a number on your confidence. This might be especially true for single moms who suddenly find themselves trying to navigate being a single woman while also raising children — a very different experience from the last time they were single.

While the stigma that used to be associated with being a single mom has diminished, if not disappeared entirely, being a single mom does still impact a woman’s confidence. There are only so many times you can be ghosted after telling your friends about how awesome your kids are, or how happy you are to be single again.

If you’re a single mom and you really blow up your kids and the relationship changes or ends, you’re going to be in a whole lot of discomfort with your feelings about what just happened. And being on the other end of the table, you’ll also be seeing a number of friends floundering around in the same situation.

The other reason for concern is if your relationship ends and you’re left alone, there’s the potential for that to drop into your confidence. After being on the receiving end of “I’m sorry I didn’t realize we were over” or “I’m sorry I didn’t see that you weren’t over me,” it can really take the wind out of you.

The good news, though, is that this is one relationship in a long line that proves the strength of a strong and healthy relationship. Instead of fighting over the same problems and the same issues, you have a place where you can recharge, grow, and learn from your mistakes, and find your way back to love again.

You can’t get rid of the past. So, for right now, just focus on recovering and getting back to your strong self. Bite your tongue and hold on to those victories, even if some of them might be a bit bittersweet. You’ll be reborn one day, and once you are brought back into the light, you’ll see that your struggles were actually nothing compared to the pain you’ve been in.

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