Sex addicts often claim they need sex so much their brain shuts down
While many people claim to need sex so much to stay functioning, this is simply not true for all people.
If you simply shut your body down when you feel pain, it is not sex that is necessary, it is pain that is necessary. It is the fear of hurting another human being that makes people turn away from their feelings. Many people claim they need sex to feel love for their partner, but that is just an excuse to get some sort of feeling out of your system. It is not sex that is necessary, it’s pain that can lead to love or hate or vengeance.
Is sex with someone really necessary to keep your relationship going? It is great if you have sex, but should that be the only reason you continue to see your lover? Sex can make people mad, sex can make people jealous, sex can make people feel hurt, or abandoned or used, or hungry. That is no reason to stay in a relationship with someone. If you are going to have sex, then make sure you both feel like you are having the time of your life. Keep the privacy and the space you need. If you know your partner enjoys sex, then do what you can to make it happen. The extra sex will just make it easier for your partner to put some sleep in their world.
Maintaining sexlessness for any amount of time is difficult. I for one do not want to feel like I need sex so often that it disrupts my world. I trust myself, my boyfriend, and my sex life. I don’t want him to never feel bored or neglected because there is no sex happening. I don’t want to feel like I am the only one who has no sex. So what could you do to make sex more likely with your partner?
A good place to start would be to talk about it. Both partners need to talk about what is going on in their lives and their relationship. Both need to know what is going on in their personal sex lives and personal relationships. Both need to know what turns them on, and what doesn’t. Both want to know what they can do to encourage their partner to have more sex.
Start a conversation about sex in your relationship. Start by discussing the sex life in the relationship. Let your partner know how much sex is too much sex, and why. Then share with them some of the things you have done or are doing to make them feel more comfortable having more sex.
Try to find where you both fit in the sex life balance. Keep talking about sex life, and then move on to other topics. Likewise, with your sex life make sure you discuss other ways of improving it.